Quarantine Self-Care Series
Tomorrow is Another Chance: Portrait of Mel
The Quarantine Self-Care Series is a multimedia project that highlights
the ways people of color are navigating the nuances of self-care, survival, and new normals as a result of COVID-19 via interview, installation, photos, and video.
MEL TAING is a Cambodian-American photographer & experimental filmmaker based in Boston.
When asked How do you care for yourself?, she responded:
“The first thing that comes to mind is my mental health. I care for myself by participating in talk therapy every week. I've been going to a therapist consistently for three years. It's changed my life. Now, I see my therapist virtually through zoom each week! Talking with her, especially in these anxious and sad times, is crucial. I count therapy at the top of my self care list, so I'll do whatever I can to keep this going in my life.
The second way I care for myself is through food. I believe that food is love. It's a love language that has been passed down to me through my Cambodian heritage. My entire family shows their love through cooking and eating together. I cherish every meal and will earnestly plan my next meal while I'm already eating. My partner and I fell in love through food and cooking together, so it really is a bonding experience with him when we step into the kitchen. Now that we're both recently unemployed, we have a lot of time on our hands to cook epic meals.
The last way I care for myself is allowing myself to have shitty days. I know there's always work to be done, grants to apply to, photos to edit, jobs to search for, youtube workout videos to check out... but when I wake up and the fog is in my mind and that anxious heavy weight is on my chest... I know I can't wish it away with productivity. I am slowly learning that my productivity is NOT equal to my worth. The jobs I had, the gigs I used to book... those things don't equal my worth as a person right now. And I'm working really hard to wrap my head around that and allow myself to just rest. To sit on the couch, feel a little shitty, put Frank Ocean on, and let the day go by. Tomorrow is always another chance. And if tomorrow is also a little shitty, I can accept that with as much grace as I can give. We're dealing with a global pandemic, here!”